I am looking for ladies who just want a bit of fun, so nothing serious for now well not too serious. Swimming, reading, knocking, playing cards and other games and - of course: sex ;-. Why I dug myself deeper: Because she has more experience than me, and I didn't react as well as I should have when she revealed some of her more experimental experiences, she has until very recently felt uncomfortable admitting to me what she likes sexually for fear I will judge her.
There have been times where she asked me if we could try something which as far as I could tell was completely normal but was still afraid I'd be weirded out. Due to this, I have been worried that there are things she wishes we were doing but she won't admit it.
I've tried getting her to tell me if there are and her answers were always wishywashy. I asked her to tell me her best and worst experiences prior to me, hoping it would be a more casual way of discussing what she's tried.
She said she would only feel comfortable with that if I went first. So of course I made up stories to go with my 3 fictitious previous partners. I wish I hadn't dug myself deeper in the process, but I do have to say I'm very happy she did finally tell me about her past experiences. I'm a thoughtful and considerate nice guy who is looking for a best friend to marry in the next 3 year. Take the time and energy you spend approaching and making lame converstation with complete strangers and apply that time and energy into organizing some kind of fun activity with a group of males and females and tell all them to bring some friends of theirs.
If this "anxiety" about how others perceive him, has been already going on for 10 years I doubt that you can change him. There are couples that 'assume' and there are couples that verbalize exclusivity. This guy lied about his age; turned out he was older than he'd initially told her. He gave soap to his sister every Christmas. He was an accountant, who had done well for himself, yet he gave his sister soap.
