I once went on a date with a guy who showed up wearing jeans and a T-shirt. Totally normal outfit, except the tee was actually just functional workout gear being taken on a fun night out, and the slip-on Vans rounding out his lewk were threadbare at best. I, on the other hand, wore a dress, cute sneakers , and a leather jacket that felt casual but totally appropriate for the trendy bar and potential new fling.
The way I saw it, if he were really interested in pursuing something with me, he was not—as they say—dressing for the job he wanted. I get the allure of doing the bare minimum—to some extent, at least. But seriously, ghosts of bad dates past: When you wore your sunglasses on the back of your neck while we were inside, you basically killed any sort of sexual desire I might have had for you.
So, why is this a thing, and why is this the norm? Her take? The solution for many of these suitors? Opting for something super comfortable—because maybe through osmosis, the sartorial choices will have nerve-calming effects.
Also, some guys just DGAF. Just channel your inner Tan France, and be nice when you offer simple self-improvement tips— like that Fab 5-worthy French tuck.
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