Candice Kashani graduated from law school debt-free this spring, thanks to a modern twist on an age-old arrangement. So she decided to check out a dating website that connected women looking for financial help with men willing to provide it, in exchange for companionship and sex β a "sugar daddy" relationship as they are known. Now, almost three years and several sugar daddies later, Kashani is set to graduate from Villanova University free and clear, while some of her peers are burdened with six-digit debts.
As the cost of tuition and rent rises, so does the apparent popularity of such sites among students. But are they really providing financial relief, or signing women up for something more exploitative and dangerous than debt? Kashani believes such sites are a "great resource" for young women, but others say these arrangements smack of prostitution and take advantage of women in a vulnerable situation.
Lynn Comella, an associate professor of gender and sexuality studies at University of Nevada Las Vegas, said that it is not unusual for students to turn to sex work such as stripping, prostitution or webcam work to pay for school.
But the sugar daddy sites are relatively new, and she says not entirely upfront about what they are really about. These arrangements are more vague than prostitutionβ there is an expectation of material benefit but it is not always specified and sex is not guaranteed. Ron Weitzer, a professor of sociology at George Washington University and criminologist with an expertise in the sex industry describes it as "prostitution light.
But experts say at the very least the internet has made these transactions far easier to arrange and negotiate. Kashani says she sifted through many potential suitors before finding one she clicked with. She says she considers her sugar daddy one of her best friends and that they care deeply for each other. But unlike most relationships, she is paid a sizeable monthly allowance that helps her pay for school.
