Who have assaulted her right was a consenting partner in casual sex to force her to do things she did not want to do. This is important to address because we live in a world where Steve Harvey has built the bulk of his career and is now slanging bacon off of preaching relationship advice that puts the onus of the relationship on to women.
Where the bad behavior of men is acknowledged as a problem that women need to find the solution to. If you have not read the article, please stop and read it here.
A guy refusing to put a condom on and pushing himself inside of you. I come from the firm school of No. Hell to the no. Fuck your feelings, no. What was so apparent in this article was that this young lady had no boundaries to begin with, putting her further out into the cold. This is not victim-blaming or shaming. At no point should your obligation to keeping the peace come at the cost of violence against your body. However when it comes to rape, we are so trained to believe that the first reaction is to think how did we get here?
What did I do to cause this? We immediately blame ourselves for the violence projected by others, that we do everything but firmly lay out the boundaries, to keep from seeing it is as rape.
We will elect to stay quiet, because of the fear of the fallout from exerting our own rights over our body. That is not okay. A few examples she gave were rape. Do not disvalue how hard it is to get a man off top of you when he is inside of you.
