We recently asked women of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the first date "icks," aka red flags, that other women shouldn't overlook — and the results were eye-opening.
Here's what they had to say:. I went on a date with a guy who turned every question I asked into a trauma dump.
I left the date knowing more than I needed or wanted to know for a first date. He just places all of the blame for the failures in a relationship on the woman and doesn't listen until she's yelling. You'll be next. I went on a date with a guy who, when I told him I wanted to be a criminal prosecutor, lectured me about prosecution and defense law. I went on a date with a guy who grabbed my upper arm, shoulder, and waist without asking. I don't know you; don't touch me, and especially don't touch me if I haven't told you that you can.
I treat everyone I encounter, from my bartender to the cashier at the grocery store, with respect. People who don't are entitled, and I want nothing to do with them. Steering the conversation back to him and topics he likes when you do try to speak about yourself. They'll always think they're more important than you. A real catfish. I met a guy who had obviously used a picture of his younger self online, which was not what I expected.
On top of that, he would ask every five minutes what I thought of his outfit and how he looked. Big turn off. Big no, no, no!!! And I've met a few frogs!!! He was wearing corduroy pants that were too long, so they were all tattered on the bottoms and flip-flops, and he had a giant grease stain on the front of his oversized shirt. I'm not a fashionista by any means, but he didn't even try to look decent. I'm a big baseball fan, but this was extreme. You're being too sensitive and emotional! Hello controlling!
