You can log on, choose to remain as anonymous as you want, pick the pictures that showcase who you are, and tell people what you want them to know about you. All I remember is superficial conversationsβone after the nextβoften consisting of one-word sentences. Alok embraces fluidity in all aspects of their lives and shows people around the globe how expansive our existence can be if we are willing to let go of defined ideas on sexuality and gender.
I talked to them about online dating, exploration, and staying true to yourself while finding a connection to others. Joppe: For lots of queer people, dating apps are vital in finding a connection to peers, locally and globally.
What is your relationship with dating apps? They are a tour guide, a queer map, an underground network of places to be and people to see. How do you make sure that you show up as your truest self, even on dating apps?
ALOK: I first want to validate how incredibly difficult this is. I believe that we have to go internal before we go external. The more I accept myself and feel secure in who I am, the less interested I am in shapeshifting for other people.
Self-acceptance helps us accept that we are not for everybody: rest assured in the fundamental truth that we are going to magnetize the people we are meant for. Joppe: Thank you for that. With how difficult dating can be, what are some of the challenges you encountered while online dating before you found Feeld? How does Feeld feel different? Knowing those options are there and that you can show up as your authentic self while connecting online is incredibly important.
