Here's what they revealed:. I started seeing a guy who was allegedly separated from his ex for two years. He claimed they had a very civilized relationship for the sake of their kids. When I came into the picture, he was trying to move things along at an uncomfortable rate with me. I discovered he told his kids and ex about me we weren't even officially dating yet.
Unfortunately, this made the ex extremely jealous because she started texting him and confessing her love for him.
The worst part of it all was that they got the poor kids in on their BS. Suddenly, I became the bad guy in the way of these two being together, and he bailed. I realized that I was just a pawn in their toxic, on-again-off-again relationship, and he was likely aiming for that outcome the whole time. And we met on Catholic Match!
I pulled back a bit when I learned he was not divorced. Then he gave me the schedule for the divorce proceedings, and the closer we got to that date, the more anxious he got. I figured he wasn't ready to date yet. It made perfect sense. He was nice, but I'd rather not have the drama. We still email each other on our birthdays 13 years later. I once dated a guy who pursued me SO intensely, and he swore up and down they were separated and in the process of divorcing.
Turns out she had no idea I existed. They were separated under the pretense of getting back together. In the end, I thank god that he lied to both of us and that I didn't end up with him. He was an insufferable human being, and I most likely would've ended up breaking it off anyway. Don't do it.
