Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. This is my first post on here. About 60 from married men, on my ad I said I didnt mind if they were single or not, but I was genuinely shocked about the number of married men replying to me, especially the number divulging info about their wives and kids, even attaching photos of themselves with wives. I am not a nieve person, but am surprised at some of the lengthts men would go to for sex, and what they were willing to risk.
For my own personal reasons I am not the most trusting, but this has fairly much trashed what little faith I had left in people. Also, married men aside, why does there seem to be a stigma against meeting people in this way, even if noone is doing anything wrong, and are consenting adults?
I do actually think that the monogamy cult is to blame for a lot of the misery around affairs. Some people get so hung up on thsi idea of True Love and The One that, despite baning on tediously about the eeeeevils of NSA sex, they behave far more unkindly.
Some interesting points of view there I think My intention when posting my original question wasnt to cause a row though. I have found that these days, the justifications that women give themselves for their affairs are as varied and similar as their male counterparts' excuses, SGB.
Some women claim the reasons you cite, just as some men claim that they are below the cat in the domestic pecking order. We've had lots of female posters on here who claim the "no sex" justification, just as men have always used the "my wife won't have sex with me" disclaimer. Some of the worst delusions about affairs occur when the affair partners are both attached to other people.
