We were married for 15 years and I know that a lot has changed out there. From what I hear, dating apps are just for hook-ups and I have no idea where to start. Where do you suggest I start? You are right. Dating apps are more likely to deliver flings than marriage proposals, so you need to manage your expectations and be clear about your boundaries. Their shop-window approach may be shallow, but, frankly, if all you want is a fling, how physically attractive you find someone is probably more important than having lots of shared interests.
Signing up to Tinder and Bumble is incredibly simple. In contrast, grown-up dating websites such as Match. With Tinder and Bumble you simply upload your best photos, write a short profile, and start swiping β left to reject, or right to indicate interest. Although it is not a universal truth, be aware that middle-aged men on dating websites are often looking for much younger women.
Research carried out by OkCupid, for example, found that men over the age of 55 sent more than half of their dating messages to women at least eight years their junior. You may be looking for a younger man yourself.
There are websites that have been specifically set up for this purpose, but I would approach them with caution and cynicism. When you are trying to find a new partner, the obvious thing to do is to get out and meet people, regardless of the method.
Be prepared to be disappointed, propositioned and stood up. This happens to everyone. But if you keep a sense of humour and an open mind, you will, at the very least, have plenty of funny stories to tell your friends. When you do meet someone you want to have a lusty fling with, hold on to your intention that this is about having fun and re-engaging with your sexual self.
