This is the third instalment of Feeld Stories, a platform for Feeld members who would like to share their experiences and stimulate productive discussion around unconventional desires and relationships. Conceived as a space for honest insight, not sensationalism or stereotyping, the series are part of our movement to normalise sexuality in its multiplicity. Some answers have been condensed and edited for clarity.
Kana is a heteroflexible female Feeld member based in New York City. On Feeld, I found people are more comfortable expressing emotional, social and physical interest in each other, which makes dating and sex feel much more secure. Being able to do the same by communicating my desires and allowing every connection to play out the way it ought to has been incredibly refreshing. Aside from this notable shift in the way I relate to people, a memorable sexual experience I had was being commanded to make intense eye contact with someone as they counted down from 10 and ordered me to come when they reached 1.
The psychological control coupled with the physical acts made for an incredibly powerful orgasm. More generally, BDSM and exploring the sub space has been just wonderfully eye opening. Feeld has allowed me to open myself up to dating again.
For the last year and half while I was single and moving through various life transitions, I had a series of longterm and short-term hook ups.
This was exciting for a time since I came from a long period of monogamy, but the sex-only structure became unappealing after a while. I recently realised this was just a bad proxy for what I really wanted β meaningful connections and the freedom to pursue them.
