I am a year-old Muslim woman who has been married for two months. I have been very depressed, and I sometimes neglected my husband because of frustration and anger. Now, I discovered that, because of me being distant for the past week, as he claims, he has been on the Tinder dating app. He shared his number with a non-Muslim woman and has been talking to her for two days.
Thank you for your question. Forgiveness and trust are two completely different things. Al-Zubair said: The Prophet of Allah Allah bless him and give him peace was commanded to hold to forgiveness from the conduct of the people.
He has lost credibility with you, and it will take time to build up that trust. You have the right to take your time, and it is possible to find that trust again. Everyone deserves a second chance. That being said, you should consider his character as what he did is strange and unexpected, and it makes one wonder about his habits and what he might possibly do in the future.
Turn to Allah during this time, and show your devotion to the One that can help you solve your problems. Take the means to bring blessings and angels into your home, and remember that if you both turn to Allah, worship together, study together, attend circles of remembrance together and keep the company of religious couples, your marriage can transform completely, by the grace of Allah.
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
