Women's Health may earn commission from the links on this page, but we only feature products we believe in. Why Trust Us? Fortunately, whatever your sex sitch, there are always ways to spice up your sex life. Approach your partner when you're in a relaxed environment, such as while laying in bed at night or cuddling on the couch, so that the conversation feels low-pressure and free of accusations.
You can say something like, "Hey, I was thinking about how it might be fun if we tried using some handcuffs. What do you think? Ahead, certified sex experts share the 20 best ways to spice up your sex life and even add a little kink , if you're interestef! Start taking notes Give light spanking a shot. As long as you have prior consent, spanking is yet another fun and sexy way people can introduce some kink into their bedroom situation, says Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, a sex educator and researcher based in Atlanta.
Switch up your positions. You're go-to's probably look something like missionary, cowgirl, or doggy style. Need some inspo? WH has you covered with this super long sex position bucket list. To add even more flavor to your sex life, ask your partner if they might be up for using some sex toys together. Not sure how to bring up this topic with your partner?
First, do your research and find out what sex toy might feel best for you both. Check out this list of the best sex toys for couples , according to experts, for some examples. Then, when you're both in a good head space, tell them you want to suggest adding a few elements to your sexual repertoire, explaining why you think certain toys, specifically, like a butt plug or vibrator, might add to the sexperience. An activity that brings a new element to your sex life?
Games, especially ones that include spontaneity like dice or playing cards, says Jenkins Hall. Kinky and dirty messages are a perfect way to spice up your sex life, Jenkins Hall says. Role play is always an option. Odds are you've known your significant other for quite a while at this pointβso why not get to know someone else for a change? Try spicing up your sex life with a bit of role play, suggests Janet Brito, PhD, a nationally-certified sex therapist and the founder of the Sexual Health School in Honolulu, Hawaii.
