What are men really looking for when they hire an escort, interact with a cam girl or see a sex worker? Why do men take mistresses? Tracey Cox reveals the motives behind why men seek 'other' women including sex workers and mistresses, as it's revealed they turn to porn if it's just sex that's lacking file image. I interviewed women in the sex industry and women having affairs, as well as dozens of men, to find out what those reasons are.
Excitement and novelty. Nearly all the men I interviewed did not consider interacting with a cam girl as an act of infidelity. Hero worship. Tracey pictured says men may seek sexual services with someone else because they're afraid to ask their partner to explore a 'kink'.
Mistresses idolise β they see the reflection in the pond. A wife sees the true him β under a microscope. Not too many wives idealise their husbands, but most men love to be hero-worshipped. Affairs are all about pin-point focus: you become the only two people in the world. She admires me. When I look at my wife, I see disappointment in her eyes. To be able to explore a kink without being judged. Almost all the cam girls, escorts and sex workers who specialise in BDSM said a large proportion of their clients think their wives and girlfriends would be horrified if they suggested doing what they did with them.
To enjoy the fun, sexy things their partner no longer does for them. Men see these things as things done for them. It makes them feel special. A confidence boost. Do I sound OK when I talk dirty?
Tracey says single men visit sex workers when they're in need of a confidence boost because constantly being rejected in the real world can take its toll file image. Honest advice β without judgement. This is where a usually non-sexual close friendship with a female friend comes in. Men will nearly always be more honest about their relationships with another woman than they will another man.
