I once went on a date with a guy who showed up wearing jeans and a T-shirt. Totally normal outfit, except the tee was actually just functional workout gear being taken on a fun night out, and the slip-on Vans rounding out his lewk were threadbare at best. I, on the other hand, wore a dress, cute sneakers , and a leather jacket that felt casual but totally appropriate for the trendy bar and potential new fling. The way I saw it, if he were really interested in pursuing something with me, he was not—as they say—dressing for the job he wanted.
I get the allure of doing the bare minimum—to some extent, at least. But seriously, ghosts of bad dates past: When you wore your sunglasses on the back of your neck while we were inside, you basically killed any sort of sexual desire I might have had for you.
So, why is this a thing, and why is this the norm? Her take? The solution for many of these suitors? Opting for something super comfortable—because maybe through osmosis, the sartorial choices will have nerve-calming effects. Also, some guys just DGAF. Just channel your inner Tan France, and be nice when you offer simple self-improvement tips— like that Fab 5-worthy French tuck.
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Social isolation and a renewed interest in wellness and outdoor activities in the wake of the pandemic have made running clubs and rec leagues popular spots for intentionally meeting new people. Dating app fatigue has made people seek out activities and venues that bring back meeting people IRL. Dating workout classes can be awkward —how are you supposed to flirt while huffing and puffing?
