This articles is not graphic, inappropriate, or explicit nor would we publish anything that was , but some mature topics are mentioned. God made every part of usβincluding our bodies! Olivia, a freshman who had had her first sexual encounter with a boy who then dropped her soon afterward, was in the office of UCLA psychiatrist Miriam Grossman, who saw students just like her every semesterβyoung people devastated by the hookup culture.
UCLA is not the only place failing to tell the whole story. The media pushes a one-dimensional narrative that sex can be purely physical, disconnected from any sort of personal connection. Will you know what to say? Will you know how to answer? Essentially it is telling us that we should not have to deal with people as whole persons. But the promise of physical pleasure apart from personal connection is a lie.
Hookup culture tells us that we should leave our emotions at the door in order to keep sex casual. One college student had a regular hookup partner but admitted that without alcohol, the two of them could not even sustain a conversation.
Casual sex fragments the physical and emotional parts of the person. Turning off this important part of you can have damaging, long-lasting results. Young adults find that it becomes ever more difficult to form deep attachments. Even when they want to marry, they have a harder time making a lasting commitment. A YouGov poll found that almost half of millennials have given up the hopeβor even desireβfor a monogamous relationship.
This lack of personal connection is creating an epidemic of loneliness and heartbreak. After a hookup scene in the Netflix series The Haunting of Hill House, one character asks the other where she is from.
