I thought all men liked it. Am I wrong? Not all men like oral sex. You and your boyfriend are still in the honeymoon period and being open about vulnerabilities or insecurities could have a transformative effect on your relationship. What might your boyfriend say if he felt safe enough to be honest?
The most likely explanation is that he has had a bad experience. It is not particularly easy to do this well and it can be awkward if it goes wrong. If he had a bad experience with his previous partner or the sensation he experienced was painful, uncomfortable, or boring, he may have decided that it is easier and less embarrassing to not go there. Alternatively, he may have anxieties about the size and shape of his penis or how quickly he ejaculates.
Some men find oral sex over-stimulating and since they generally prefer intercourse anyway, avoiding it means they save their orgasm for penetrative sex. Some men find it can make them lose their erection. If this happens just once, it can create a cycle of anxiety in which worrying about losing an erection during oral sex ensures that it happens repeatedly.
And hygiene can be a concern, although a quick shower before sex sorts that out easily enough. It is hard to master fellatio and many men would rather have none than something badly executed. And since he does not seem to be too bothered about receiving it, one option is to leave it off the menu. However, if you are keen to improve your technique, my book, The Sex Book, available at amazon.
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