This is an important step in building empathy and compassion for one another. Building trust in a relationship is important and may take time.
Oftentimes, especially in a new relationship, we may need to work with the other person to figure out ways to communicate effectively with each other. In this situation, boundaries may need to be addressed. Expressing your needs and setting limits are just two examples of healthy boundary-setting. Remember that healthy relationships require all of us to honor and respect boundaries.
Having someone listen to us and feeling heard is fundamental to all relationships. A healthy relationship behavior is when both people feel relatively comfortable bringing up issues, expressing themselves and listening to the other person.
While not every conversation is going to be easy, both people should feel that they will be listened to, respected and taken seriously. If one person actively disrespects, ignores or demeans the other person, this is abusive behavior. Disagreements and conflict are normal in any relationship. In some cases, conflict can be a sign that something needs to change within a relationship.
Many times, people who ignore or avoid conflict risk facing increased tensions and unmet needs. However, the way we respond to conflict is usually more important than the conflict itself. Working through a disagreement by talking respectfully and listening to understand each other is an important component of any relationship. People may resort to belittling the other person during disagreements. These are signs that it may be time to get support. OVA provides confidential support and resources for students, staff and faculty who may be experiencing abusive or violent behaviors in a relationship.
