Plus a guy who just wants to get his cock sucked in this week's Savage Love. But after some affairs—one where my wife screwed my best friend—and therapy, we reconnected, righted ourselves, and started a wonderful family. We both identify as bisexual now, and we are ethically non-monogamous.
My question is this: My wife never seeks out other lovers, but I often do. She thinks looking for sex on apps is gross and won't try it. She did recently suggest we become poly—that we date other couples together—only to shut that down after one date with another couple. She also kind of slut-shames me when I ask permission to hook up or date someone else. She wants to be open in theory, but she seems to be against it in practice.
We communicate well and she continues to give me permission but always after shaming me , and I check in regularly only to have her act annoyed when I inform her of each new adventure.
I am not sure what to do. Or any of them? But you only share the details of one: your wife fucked your best friend. That had to hurt. Annoyance that, again, you could be reading as slut-shaming.
At any rate, OPEN, if I were married to someone who agreed to open the relationship but who seemed annoyed or upset or slut-shamed me whenever I asked for their okay to go fuck someone else, I would have a few questions for my spouse: Do they want an open relationship at all?
