Posted May 17, Reviewed by Tyler Woods. Most day-to-day incidents go right by us without notice. The other hundreds that we pass do bring on small or large emotions that, as I've written , "touches the psyche, alters body chemistry, and stirs a mood to contract muscles, shakes some emotions that constrict or enlarge some blood vessels in the brain are different.
There is one special category of incidents that the psyche is built for, and that is accidental encounters with soulmates. For centuries, there were arranged marriages that took care of betrothals, and for those same centuries, people met their mates by chance. All that changed when speed dating technology got involved in the s. New research downplays dating apps. Nothing beats the experience of just chance meetings.
When I was eight years old, I asked one of my many uncles how I would meet the person I would marry. On October 15, , a Wednesday, there were anti-war demonstrations in major cities across America. There, with over , other protesters in the Boston Commons, I met the woman my uncle described.
Call it destiny or chance, but I must say that it beats all the stories of online dating that are now beginning to fade in favor of those chance meetings that seem to have a mystically supreme depth. A decade ago, Millennials were wild about dating online for lasting relationships. Love in life rings its bells in coincidental meetings.
Looking at a screen does distinguish cases, but not in ways that lead to lasting companionship. A screen image can never capture the essence of a person the way real eyes capture another's real eyes. Twenty-five years ago, speed dating was the rage , a real-live person-to-person experience that had some remarkable success.
