Imagine this! Your partner is going back to work and you are going to be alone with your newborn for the first time. What emotional response are you having just thinking of that moment?
I feel good about this. My posse and I have talked about in what ways, days, and hours they will be coming to love on me. Your partner has X amount of days or weeks to be with you but when they are done maybe you will be like I was and feel alone, exhausted, lonely, scared, still in pain, isolated, not quite sure how to handle all the emotions.
It is very common for pregnant or new mothers to fear the first day they are alone with their newborn. We know you have set high standards for yourself when it comes to your baby and for that reason, we wanted to provide you some topics to think about when preparing for your partner to go back to work.
Have your partner go back only part-time at first or do a few trial runs. Maybe he works from 7am pm and then is home for the rest of the day with you. Entering into being alone slowly can allow you to feel less anxiety than doing it all day every day from day 1.
Do you have family in town? Have you looked into a postpartum doula? Look for someone that you feel can listen to you, support you with nursing, help you cook, tidy up and run errands for you. My sweet mother in law came to our house every Friday because she loves to help with laundry and cleaning but I never feel like I could just allow her to support me, I always got up and helped because of guilt. Stay off social media.
