For example, the size of the age gap matters. Dating someone older can seem exciting and the age gap might not feel like an issue. But it can bring up different questions and worries. Two people with a big age gap will likely be at very different life stages and want different things. They might not be able to see things from your perspective or understand your interests or worries.
An older person may use things like a car, money and access to alcohol to impress you and get what they want. A relationship should always be balanced and equal. Think about what each of you benefits from in the relationship. Why would someone want to date someone much younger? A big age gap in relationships can cause an imbalance of power. This means one person has more influence or control over the other.
It might feel like your partner is always telling you what to do, saying they know better than you because they are older. This is controlling behaviour and is not okay. Dating someone older is intimidating at times. Feeling comfortable and confident to say how you feel and being aware of consent is important. Your partner might make you feel really loved or give you loads of attention, but do they ever do things that hurt you or take advantage of you?
If so, this is abusive and you should speak to an adult you trust about what has happened. Relationships are all about communication, honesty and respect. Your partner should always listen and respect how you feel. It might also be difficult if friends or family do not approve of the relationship, but it might be good to hear their perspective just as you would want them to hear yours.
People often like the idea of someone older, more than they actually like them. Sometimes you can be attracted to someone, simply because they are older and seem more confident and mature. Like people, all relationships are different. It is illegal for someone over 18 to have a sexual relationship or sexual activity with someone under 16, or under 18 if they are in a position of responsibility like a teacher or a sports coach.
